"WE KNOW OUR SCREEN LOCKS, ATM PNS, BANK BALANCES" A NIGERIAN MAN AND HIS WIFE MARK THEIR 19TH WEDDING ANNIVERSARY (PICTURES)

Monday Kenneth Eze, the former Senior Technical Assistant to the Governor of Ebonyi State on Media, stated that he and his wife have few or no secrets between them.

Mr Eze made this statement in a Facebook post on Tuesday, November 15, 2022, when he and his wife celebrated their 19th wedding anniversary.

They are aware of their respective "screen locks, e-mail passwords, ATM pins, and bank account balances," according to him.

NINETEEN YEARS ON STELLA-THERAPY! For six hundred million, four thousand and eight hundred seconds or 6,944.5 days, I have been happily and excitedly married with my STELLAvite!  Apart from our family alter to the omnipresent, omniscient, omnipotent and omni-loving God who has been our anchor and perpetual help, the following is the simple marriage compass we set for ourselves," he wrote.

1. Going into marriage was our wilful decision and in taking the decision, we respectively confessed and laid out our true characters and dispositions, comprising the good, the bad and the ugly on the table. So, we knew each other. We knew our respective strengths and weaknesses. There was minimal room for negative surprises.

2. We resolved to focus on our strengths or positive sides and help each other change or improve on our respective weaknesses or negative sides. So, we knew the task before us.

3. We swore to keep our friendship perpetually aflame and let it serve rightly as the foundation of our "husband-and-madam" status. This implies that even though marriage is "for better or for worse", we shall work hard to be channels of the better and team up to abate or manage the "worse" when it comes from extraneous factors. The "worse" in marriage should not proceed from any of the partners.

4. Realising that we are imperfect and pursuant to paragraph 3 above, we resolved that in times of misunderstanding, suspicion, actual provocations or outright search for each other's trouble, we do them and react to them like friends. We particularly fixed boundary on how to react to negative conducts from each other: That boundary is to react as friends and not as enemies. Truly, the way an offended friend reacts to an offence is significantly different from the way an enemy reacts.

5. As a follow-up to 4 above, we made forgiveness, penitence and humily important ingredients of our daily lives. Hence, for us, no offence is too big to be forgiven, but the forgiven must terminate the offence and make necessary amendments.

6. We also closed all gaps and have minimal or near-zero secrets between us: We know our respective screen locks, e-mail passwords, ATM pin numbers, our friends, bank accounts and their balances, locations, what makes each other happy and so on.

7. We have never involved a third party in our marriage; but we have never made hearty discussions and resolutions difficult.

8. We took an over-riding decision to trust each other, run a radical caring-heart competition and to, as much as possible, avoid anything that hurts each other.

To God be the glory, we are 19 years married today! We've realized over the years that marriage is a conduit for God's graces. Marriage is not something to be feared. It should instead be approached with godly faith and sincerity. No marriage between two sincerely loving people will fail.

As I thank God for the fruits that a broken tree like me has produced in his garden of grace, I pray that he will heal all troubled marriages, satisfy the many who yearn for good unions, and prosper our homes in the all-conquering name of Jesus Christ.

Friends, please join me in celebrating my one and only STELLAsupplement, who has continued to love me despite my EbebeAgu face.

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